I have many friends lately that have been telling me that they are disappointed with themselves because of expectations that they have set that they feel like they are not living up to.
And I think that the solution is very simple. There’s something that’s better than expectations. What’s better than expectations is intuition. It always knows what you have to do. It always knows the next thing that you have to do. I like to think of it like going up a dark staircase.
You can’t really see 10 or 20 steps ahead of you, yet that is what everyone tries to do. You can only see maybe the first step, the next step, maybe the next two steps, maybe the next three steps and those are exactly the steps that you need to take.
So if you listen to your intuition it’s much easier than trying to meet these expectations which you don’t even know how to get to in the first place and trying to jump 20 steps ahead when you have no clue. You just end up falling on your face and of course you are going to be disappointed.
Another analogy that I like to make is that living well is like a form of sailing. You let the natural energy take you, you let the winds energy carry you.
This is much easier than rowing and trying to use all your strength and all your energy and all your willpower. That might take you short distances but it can’t carry you across the entire ocean.
It burns energy very inefficiently. it’s much easier to just let things flow, follow your intuition because it already knows the next thing that you have to do.